Friday, September 22, 2006

Sexual Fantasies

Has anyone ever noticed how wierd sexual fantasies are? And how our minds can get kind of fixated on the same old fantasies?

Now, sometimes this is useful. For instance, at times when I have been having trouble reaching a climax, I can mentally flick through my fantasy index, pull out one of the old reliables, and usually get off to it very successfully!

And actually, I find mine kind of entertaining. For instance, I am a historian by training, and so I am amused to find that quite a lot of my fantasies are about historical figures and scenarios.

There's one of my favourites, about being a young noblewoman in a castle with the young Henry VIII (you know, while he was still handsome and virile and a much-admired Rennaissance prince, rather than the tyrannical and murderous old hulk he later became). I am sitting in a chair, pracising the lute, and Queen Katharine and her ladies, except for me, have just left for a May Day picnic. And the king wanders into the room. Our eyes meet, and I see his look of desire. I turn away in confusion, and climb up on a chair to look out the window at the queen and the other ladies departing. And I feel his hand lift my skirt and travel up to my thigh...

Okay, another favourite. I have been captured by the men of a Turkish sultan, and sent to the harem to serve the sultan's pleasure. Even though I know that in real life the harem must have been an incredibly boring place, in my fantasies it is utterly different. There is something so erotic about the idea of semi-naked women sort of lying around all day, taught to please the sultan, and taking endless baths together, rubbing sweet oils on each other. Is it just that I find water so... you know... Anyway, my favourite scenario is that, when I am summoned, I find that a beautiful young man, with intense dark eyes and a grin like a pirate, has been chosen to "test" (taste!) the women to find which of them are good enough for the sultan. And of course, the test is how wonderful they taste, and how incredible their orgasms are... Guess who wins??!!

*sigh*

Is it just the fact that I am running a temperature that is making me so hot all over and my mind run with fantasies? Not to mention putting something this embarrassing on my blog. Now everyone will laugh at me!

And why always the same fantasies? Is this a female thing? Do men get fixated on the same old scenarios, even when they know how tired and cliched (not to mention Orientalist and non-PC) they are?

32 Comments:

Blogger O272 said...

Henry VIII was a short, stocky guy. He had that condition where your face turns red all the time... I'm probably not helping with your fantasy much, huh? ;)

The second fantasy sounds a lot like a book I read recently!

My fantasies usually involve hotel rooms with thick walls, mirrored ceilings and a hot tub... It's the only place I can think of where I wouldn't feel obligated to bring a kid along! ;)

4:33 PM  
Blogger Cat said...

I have one dream with the lasso of truth and wonder woman but is more about being restrained than it is about sex. And I have one all the time about having sex with a guy who is telepathic, weird...

7:20 PM  
Blogger Mr. Husbland said...

Good grief! Your fantasy sounds like it would be in Masterpiece Theatre.

At least there's some thought behind it! :)

7:32 PM  
Blogger Emily said...

Cat, your fantasies are so cool! Why can't *I* have fantasies about Wonder Woman? And who *wouldn't* want to have sex with a guy who is telepathic?

1:13 AM  
Blogger Satan said...

Em - I have the Henry the 8th fantasy, too! (How weird is that?)

I also seem to have fantasies where there are a lot of people involved. It's not usually just a simple me-and-another-guy fantasy, there's a supporting cast.

2:54 AM  
Blogger Emily said...

Satan - do tell!

3:00 AM  
Blogger Satan said...

I don't think I'm ready to really spill about my Lady of The Manor fantasy, that includes (but is not limited to) Tim Curry as my raunchy butler, Jason Statham as the lonely footman and a darling younger sister named Katherine that has blond curls and an oral fixation.

5:03 AM  
Blogger C-Marie said...

Fantasies? Don't get me started! I really don't have any that top the ones that have been posted here... but I DO have them!

5:10 AM  
Blogger Tajalude said...

Maybe THAT'S my problem... I read yours and thought "Hmm... what are my fantasies?" and came up with... absolutely nothing. I think I spend more time dwelling on the fact that I'm not having sex than I do on what my "fantasy" would be.

I'm inspired!! Thanks, Emily! : )

6:17 AM  
Blogger Mu Ling said...

Emily, I think I may have to steal those fantasies. Or rather "borrow" them.

I have a number of reliably arousing fantasies too. Some are quite elaborate and some involve nothing more than a fleeting thought or image. Yet calling up that thought is sometimes all I need to get started.

My low-libido husband says that he has no fantasies. None. After extensive discussion, I've come to believe him. I sometimes think that it must be very boring to have his mind, preoccupied all day with food and consumer electronics and never with sex. Ah well: to each his own.

7:25 AM  
Blogger Emily said...

C-Marie and Mu-Ling, I think you should at least hint at one of yours. Because the sorry fact is that I am running out of inspiration and need new material :-)

Maybe I need a new historical tome? Maybe Australian this time. Convict woman and officer? "Oh, sir, how can you? I'm not that kind of girl!"

Mu-Ling, I know just what you mean. When I ask the Big Dude about his fantasies, he looks at me like I am a crazy and perverted) woman, says he has none, and that even if he did, they would be none of my business!

So, is this just a female thing? Are the men far too busy either watching porn or resisting it to make up these kinds of fantasies?

2:21 PM  
Blogger O272 said...

I was hoping you'd get some male replies! Well, there was Mr. H, but he dodged the fantasy Q!

4:18 PM  
Blogger Emily said...

Well, I have sent out a call, because I, too, want to know... unless of course, nice Christian men don't HAVE fantasies. Or, you know, aren't supposed to share...

4:48 PM  
Blogger Desireous said...

Speaking as a woman who likes to draw out a man's fantasies and hear every naughty detail I can safely say that yes men get fixated on certain fantasies just as we women do. Great topic btw. This is my first time reading you but I like what I see so far. Your blog name is cute too.

hugs
Des

6:04 PM  
Blogger Cat said...

Maybe men don't, but they wonder why they are on the cold side of the bed! Maybe they could warm things up by telling us one of their fantasies. Men seem to hate talking SO much. But personally a hot fantasy would put me in the mood much faster than a touch would I think...

6:06 PM  
Blogger Digger Jones said...

Let's just say that there is some of my favorite kink involved. The ultimate for me is dominating while being locked up. Getting totally worked up but not quite being able to get over the edge and having that rawness fuel more domliness. Difficult to explain, but I'm totally into the contradiction of it.

And 3-somes. All guys fantasize about FMF threesomes. I'm not sure why, but we all do at some point.

D.

7:06 PM  
Blogger trueself said...

Well, disappointingly, just another woman checking in here with one of my many, many, many fantasies.

One of my favorites is the one about having group sex in a totally dark room, having no idea who is touching, sucking, or fucking who. It's just a bunch of anonymous people doing wild and wonderful things to each other.

There's a lot more detail than that, but that's all I'll share here.

7:11 PM  
Blogger Summer Rose said...

Emily you have asked, a very good question. Since I'm not a guy, I can't truely answer this. I've had a few, I can't remember them now.
S.R.

7:11 PM  
Blogger Dewdrop said...

0272 Henry VIII was 6ft 2 inches tall!!! Get your facts right lol

12:15 AM  
Blogger John said...

I have lots of fantasies. Some even having to do with blogger's whose name starts with E. Mostly mine aren't as scenario-like as yours; more pictures of different body parts. Positions. Some deal with mysterious women with their hands bound, and eyes blindfolded. I'm then free to taste their bodies entirely. Make them come over and over. Until finally they beg me to fuck them and let them collapse.

Others involve hotties at the gym. Some of them are pretty irresistable. I imagine slowly stripping off their skin-clinging spandex shorts/tops, tasting the sweat in all the delicious places it accumulates, and then feeling their bodies pressed tightly against mine.....

Damn, now see what you've got me thinking about ;-) And with no chance of sex with anyone else for probably at least one or two more weeks!

8:40 AM  
Blogger Rob said...

Well ok ladies, you all are wondering about what fantasies that us guys have. I can only speak for myself here but my fantasies are all about wondering how all of you really are in real life! I can well imagine, eh! (evil grin)

1:15 PM  
Blogger Emily said...

Would that be an evil, *piratical* grin, Rob? :-)

John - You are clearly a man of taste and discernment to dwell upon female bloggers with names that start with an E...

O272, Satan and Dewdrop - Henry VIII, for all his flaws, seems to be getting quite a lot of action for a man who has been dead for over 400 years!

3:36 PM  
Blogger Mu Ling said...

"C-Marie and Mu-Ling, I think you should at least hint at one of yours. Because the sorry fact is that I am running out of inspiration and need new material :-)"

Oh, all right.

Historical fantasy: A virgin in a Wild West whorehouse is about to be deflowered. Who will have the honor? The cowboy? The stunt rider? For Aussies or those residing in other former settler colonies, feel free to customize (outback, Yukon territory, etc.)

Contemporary: I am on a dance floor, and my partner's hands are teasingly lifting my dress, exploring, tenderly bringing me to climax, in front of all these people....

5:29 PM  
Blogger Emily said...

Mu Ling, that dance floor thing is definitely brilliant. Please tell me that it is modern dance, not ballet, that you are wearing a flame-coloured dress and have a thin film of sweat from the spotlights... yep, I love to develop that scenario!

6:31 PM  
Blogger woodinhand said...

Short and sweet -

Bondage, kinky, deviant ;)

8:43 PM  
Blogger Confused Husband said...

Sorry for the delay in responding. Just got home from my weekend trip.

Yes I do have fantasies. I would love to be able to share them with a special someone too. But it gets to be kind of hard to share them when your significant others reaction is to say 'That'll never happen'. So you ask what are your fantasies and the response is 'I don't have time for fantasies. I don't have them'.

But because I like you I'll just say that one of my favorites is from a scene in Fatal Attraction where Michael Douglas and ......can't remember her name are having the affair in the kitchen. That one has been with me since my teen years. Most of my favorites now involve SR and I together. Sometimes alone, sometimes with another person or maybe more. When we are alone I just think about her totally letting go. Taking control of me, telling me exactly what she wants. Then not worrying about who might hear us. As she is just letting everyone know how good she is feeling.

There are more but I don't want to write a novel on your blog.
CH

9:02 PM  
Blogger Satan said...

Where'd the "I Feel Pretty" post go?! I was all inspired by it . .

2:02 AM  
Blogger freebird said...

Funny, I've recently read 'My Secret Garden' and 'Men in Love' by Nancy Friday, all about women's and men's sexual fantasies - proving that the imagination has no bounds! And my two favourite men often send me written accounts of their fantasies which range from Druid's temple rituals, through kitchen table sex among the cooking ingredients, to something uncannily like the scenario Trueself described! Keeps me amused no end! ;-)

6:53 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Male blogger here, but I'm going to chicken out and 'go anonymous' for this comment. Sorry for that, but right now it's the best I can do.

Yes, I have fantasies, and I do tend to settle on a few 'hardy favorites'. Threesomes (FMF) most especially, or foursomes with another couple. Which is fine at the level of fantasy; I would never dream of trying to make any of those 'real'.

Another of my favorites is of being awakened in the middle of the night by a horny stranger, and having her do amazing things to me, all while I don't even know who she is. My wife and I have had a little fun 'role-playing' that one from time to time.

Does that help?

8:55 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Male blogger here, but I'm going to chicken out and 'go anonymous' for this comment. Sorry for that, but right now it's the best I can do.

Yes, I have fantasies, and I do tend to settle on a few 'hardy favorites'. Threesomes (FMF) most especially, or foursomes with another couple. Which is fine at the level of fantasy; I would never dream of trying to make any of those 'real'.

Another of my favorites is of being awakened in the middle of the night by a horny stranger, and having her do amazing things to me, all while I don't even know who she is. My wife and I have had a little fun 'role-playing' that one from time to time.

Does that help?

8:55 AM  
Blogger Satan said...

I hate mysteries . . now I want to know who that anon blogger is!

C'mon, I'll share my Star Trek (TNG) fantasies if you'll tell!!

12:17 PM  
Blogger FTN said...

I have a sudden urge to start singing, I'm Henry the Eighth, I am!

I have enough fantasies to fill a book. Seriously. Even just lengthy scenarios I want to do with my wife. I've written out some of them, but the execution doesn't seem to go as well as the idea stage. Ask Tajalude about the fantasy box sometime... That's something we've both tried.

From looking at the rest of these, it seems as though women all have fantasies that are like those cheesy romance novels. I can't think of one time I've fantasized about sex with a dead monarch.

7:13 AM  

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